The Psychology of ReAttach and Complex Divorce

Abstract

Romantic relationships are optimal environments for fulfilling our basic needs [1, 2, 3]. It is, therefore, understandable that we attach so much value to romantic relationships [4]. Deciding to divorce or break up a long-term romantic relationship is very stressful due to the loss of love, care, intimacy, appreciation, company, security, and much more that we expect to find in the bond with this partner [3, 5]. Ending a relationship and initiating a divorce are emotionally challenging decisions, only made when a partner no longer feels that the basic needs are being met and has given up hope that this can change for the better. After a process of accumulating negative, stressful experiences and disappointments that have affected one's perception and experience, the realization of loss makes an entrance. 

This article outlines the factors that contribute to complex divorces, providing support to ReAttach Specialists and ReAttach Affect Coaches in guiding families before, during, and after divorce. The aim is to identify common pitfalls promptly to prevent them while working tailored and strategically in complex divorce situations with ReAttach.